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Kyra Bredenhof's avatar

This broke my heart

Heather Brown Barrett's avatar

This is so beautiful. ❤️ I enjoy the exploration of joy within the deep grief.

Megan Gibbons's avatar

Just beautiful.

- - - Kate Dunoway - - -'s avatar

Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking and educational piece. I also did not know that this is how miscarriages could go. It's tragic that you had to find out in this way. You put it all so poignantly and gracefully. You sound like an incredible and strong mother. Never stop writing <3

Jen G's avatar

❤️

Andrew Wilson's avatar

I so appreciate this essay and the fact that you were willing and able to share something so difficult. I had an experience somewhat similar to yours, and it did me good to connect through your words with someone who understands these things first-hand. I also think this is just a really good essay, distilling something more people do not experience into an experiential "reading moment." The use of the definition reminded me of the way I have sought some kind of control at difficult moments in the various labels we give to phenomena that ultimately don't ever fit very well in the frame. Thanks again for sharing this.

Michelle King's avatar

This is absolutely beautiful.

Jane Berger Herschlag's avatar

I love, How to Carry, from start to finish. You totally immerse me in your experience. Very impressive, and not self-indulgent. Thanks,

Jane

martha ellen johnson's avatar

I'm writing about my mother and my little sister[s] ........ I was six when mom lost one of the identical twins. Six weeks later in a "professional" family photo she's sitting center hold my baby sister barely 5 pounds - a three pound gain from birth weight. And my mom is smiling for the camera .... a smile full of pain ..... and no one ever mentioned the loss. But I will .... I know my mom longed for a balm to ease her broken heart. I'm preparing one right now...