I so appreciate this essay and the fact that you were willing and able to share something so difficult. I had an experience somewhat similar to yours, and it did me good to connect through your words with someone who understands these things first-hand. I also think this is just a really good essay, distilling something more people do not experience into an experiential "reading moment." The use of the definition reminded me of the way I have sought some kind of control at difficult moments in the various labels we give to phenomena that ultimately don't ever fit very well in the frame. Thanks again for sharing this.
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that you know this pain too, but I'm glad I could be there with you in a small way. I don't think I'll ever be able to fully re-create it in writing, but I'll keep making attempts if it helps someone else too. Thank you, so much.
I'm writing about my mother and my little sister[s] ........ I was six when mom lost one of the identical twins. Six weeks later in a "professional" family photo she's sitting center hold my baby sister barely 5 pounds - a three pound gain from birth weight. And my mom is smiling for the camera .... a smile full of pain ..... and no one ever mentioned the loss. But I will .... I know my mom longed for a balm to ease her broken heart. I'm preparing one right now...
Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking and educational piece. I also did not know that this is how miscarriages could go. It's tragic that you had to find out in this way. You put it all so poignantly and gracefully. You sound like an incredible and strong mother. Never stop writing <3
I'm so glad to hear this! It's partly why I wanted to write it, to inform people what this can look like. And it's so common, too. Thank you so much for reading ❤️
So moving. Wow. Beautiful writing. And the perfect painting pairing. I appreciate the Q&A responses too--that bit about how the difficulty of writing a scene/segment can become part of the writing was fantastic.
Thank you so much for reading! I'd never seen the painting before, either. Isn't it wonderful? Also YES, such good advice. Maybe the writing advice I follow the most.
I so appreciate this essay and the fact that you were willing and able to share something so difficult. I had an experience somewhat similar to yours, and it did me good to connect through your words with someone who understands these things first-hand. I also think this is just a really good essay, distilling something more people do not experience into an experiential "reading moment." The use of the definition reminded me of the way I have sought some kind of control at difficult moments in the various labels we give to phenomena that ultimately don't ever fit very well in the frame. Thanks again for sharing this.
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that you know this pain too, but I'm glad I could be there with you in a small way. I don't think I'll ever be able to fully re-create it in writing, but I'll keep making attempts if it helps someone else too. Thank you, so much.
This broke my heart
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 thank you for reading ❤️
This is so beautiful. ❤️ I enjoy the exploration of joy within the deep grief.
Thank you so much, Heather! And yes, exactly.
Just beautiful.
This really moved me.
Thank you so much for reading!
What a beautiful depiction of the liminality between pregnancy and not-pregnancy. The ending felt so vivid, and like a balm for a breaking heart.
Wow what an incredible, moving essay.
Thank you so much ❤️
Boof this made me choke up a whole lot
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 thank you so much for reading, and I'm sorry. If it helps, I have since had another healthy baby and he's pure delight
What a beautiful and heart-breaking piece of writing 💔♥️
Thank you so much, Lisa!
This is absolutely beautiful.
Thank you so much, Michelle ❤️
I love, How to Carry, from start to finish. You totally immerse me in your experience. Very impressive, and not self-indulgent. Thanks,
Jane
This is so kind, thank you!
I'm writing about my mother and my little sister[s] ........ I was six when mom lost one of the identical twins. Six weeks later in a "professional" family photo she's sitting center hold my baby sister barely 5 pounds - a three pound gain from birth weight. And my mom is smiling for the camera .... a smile full of pain ..... and no one ever mentioned the loss. But I will .... I know my mom longed for a balm to ease her broken heart. I'm preparing one right now...
Your mother is lucky to have you ❤️ thanks so much for reading
Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking and educational piece. I also did not know that this is how miscarriages could go. It's tragic that you had to find out in this way. You put it all so poignantly and gracefully. You sound like an incredible and strong mother. Never stop writing <3
I'm so glad to hear this! It's partly why I wanted to write it, to inform people what this can look like. And it's so common, too. Thank you so much for reading ❤️
Really really good.
A beautiful piece. Thank you so much for sharing.
So moving. Wow. Beautiful writing. And the perfect painting pairing. I appreciate the Q&A responses too--that bit about how the difficulty of writing a scene/segment can become part of the writing was fantastic.
Thank you so much for reading! I'd never seen the painting before, either. Isn't it wonderful? Also YES, such good advice. Maybe the writing advice I follow the most.